Wednesday, 29 December 2010

Farewell Facebook

I've done it.  I just deactivated Facebook.  And it almost feels like I've been handed an abundance of free time.  In all honesty, I spent an unhealthy amount of time on it, not doing much at all.  It upsets me that 'face-booking' has even become a verb, and therefore has actually been accepted in society as an activity.  Sitting on your ass at a computer is classed as 'doing something'.  Now that's depressing.

I'm not denying that Facebook is an absolute genius of a website, far beyond anything I could ever create.  But I just feel it's gone too far.  I like to be in touch.  I like to know what's going on.  But knowing that 'Sarah is at Starbucks on Stockport Road with Melissa, Alex and Sam.'  REALLY?  Now that is quite frankly just encouraging real-life stalking.  You wouldn't find it acceptable if someone followed you into Starbucks now would you? And where will it end? Will next week tell us that Sarah is in Starbucks drinking a Caramel Frappuccino on the third table from the window next to the man with the blue hat?  It's ridiculous.  

And the days before Facebook weren't that bad, were they? Maybe I didn't know as many useless details about people that I probably don't even speak to, but in hindsight I would say that ignorance is most definitely bliss.  There are many things that I just don't need to know.  And if I do, then surely someone would pick up the phone, or (God forbid) actually have a face-to-face conversation with me.

That's the other thing that grates me about Facebook.  With a click of a button, people can wander into your life, see how you're doing, what you've been up to, stare at your pictures and then leave.  All without a word. What happened to the good old conversation? People who actually make an effort to text, call or come and see you are the ones I really want to welcome into my life.  Those are the people I would classify as 'friends'.  Not the ones who just 'like' your pictures or write on your wall once a year to say 'happy birthday'. 

So with that I say farewell Facebook.  I realise I'm probably fighting a losing battle standing against the majority but I'm sticking to my guns with this one.  At least for now.  So if you want to know if I've gained twenty pounds, dyed my hair turquoise or got a new boyfriend I guess you'll have to pick up the phone and speak to me.  I'm not asking you to get your pigeon to deliver me a handwritten letter, it's just dialling some numbers.  And if that's too much effort, the sad fact is I guess we were never really friends anyway. 

So... no more invitations to Farmville.  No more 'liking'.  No more friend requests from Abdul in Mongolia.  My life is looking brighter already. 

6 comments:

  1. hi sweetie i am very proud of you. i hope all your young cousins will follow your fantastic example, you are amazing and i love you. god bless. from aunty bren xxx

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  2. I just read this in the Inside Bolly & Prestbury magazine. I just wanted to say that if I hadn't already deleted my Facebook profile two weeks prior to reading your article, it definitely would've inspired me to do so. I absolutely love your writing style! Thanks ^_^

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  3. Deactivated my Facebook profile months ago. I didn't give any information or photograph of myself on my page but after placing initial comments 150 people jumped on and even my daughter said - Oy - you've got more than me. Is it a competition then??? Didn't ask for them - they just came.
    If you can't have an
    intelligent debate on climate change, politics and world events around the globe what is the point. I got very uncomfortable with the little box
    that kept appearing saying "you can't say that"

    My own daughter spends an enormous amount of
    time sat at her computer - its addictive and
    so it was bye bye Facebook and hello e.mail.
    But then texting is just another nightmare my own grand daughter can't write a decent e.mail - its all in text.
    How r u - please - just pick up the phone.
    It would be lovely to hear your voice - that's if
    you still have one.
    Talitha - Bollington.





    Yes you are very right Rachel it is addictive and
    downright boring and we are in danger of losing the art of conversation.

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  4. Ok, so you gave up Facebook because you want people to actually speak to you but, come on! What about those 'friends' of yours that YOU don't ever want to speak to but YOU want to see what they're doing? Yes, it may be incredibly sad but it's something that we all want to do....

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  5. I completely agree with you that a lot of time can be wasted on Facebook ... much like the time people can waste watching cricket or Eastenders or any one of a thousand pointless things that we humans do.

    It strikes me there in this is a hint of the smoker who blames the cigarettes or the drinker who blames the drink.

    Congratulations on breaking the habit but lets not blame a website for what we choose to do. You have made a choice to 'deactivate', just as you made a choice to register in the first place.

    I wonder what the next time-wasting habit will be that will be sucked in to fill the Facebook vacuum ... and how long it will be before you regret the new habit.

    Congratulations on encouraging us all to act like humans and exercise our individuality.

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  6. Hi Rachel I read your article in the Hazel Grove magazine and it made me smile, you're spot on! I use it to keep in touch with mates abroad and people abroad I've worked with, so I find it great for that.
    That said I have just deleted most of my "friends" on there after reading your article ... it was my 40th yesterday, lots of my friends posted on my wall, yet only 1 sent me a birthday card, and all of them live local ... apparently posting a wish on your facebook replaces a card these days it seems.
    Facebook is so voyeristic, and voyerism is a drug no doubt. I think you're right about it being an activity aswell, a socially acceptable one to sit on your arse all day chatting online, and the unpadtes such as "oh little johhny has been sick" like anyone really cares.

    Herbie / Hazel Grove

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